Making Love for a Lifetime: Seniors and Sexuality
By melia38 | July 3, 2009
We are sexual beings, throughout the lifespan. This includes the later years of life, which are often overlooked in discussions of sexuality. In this article I want to address some misconceptions about aging and sexuality; report some survey information on sexual behavior among seniors; describe physical, psychological and medical changes that may accompany aging; and suggest positive and affirming ways for seniors to continue to enjoy their sexuality to the fullest.
Some Myths about Aging and Sexuality
Many cultural “truths” convey the message that sexuality is for the young. If seniors are interested in sex there is something wrong with that. How many of the following myths and stereotypes have you heard?
- Older people don’t have sex, don’t want sex, don’t think about sex.
- It’s perverted for an older person to have sexual thoughts; perhaps he is a “dirty old man”.
- Women don’t want sex, aren’t interested in sex, and are only going along with what men want.
- When you get “old”, you can’t have sex.
- Sex is for younger adults. (I saw a cross-stitched sampler once which said “Kissing don’t last – cooking do”).
- If you can’t have sex like a porn star, you have no business trying it at all.
These are all misleading and incorrect stereotypes. It is important to recognize that sexuality is a central part of healthy living – all our lives!
Originally posted 2008-03-01 10:19:36.
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Separating Love From Lust
By melia38 | July 2, 2009
Merriam-Webster’s dictionary defines love as, “strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties,” and defines lust as, “an intense longing”. These two conflicting definitions help to separate love from lust. By definition alone the two differ in that, love is based on an affinity while lust is based solely on desire. The two also differ in how they affect a relationship but sometimes it becomes difficult to separate the two because lust can exist in the presence of love. Analyzing a loving relationship and a lustful relationship separately will help us to learn to distinguish love from lust. Read the rest of this entry »
Originally posted 2007-08-22 08:33:36.
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Can Money Buy You Happiness?
By melia38 | July 1, 2009
Can money buy you happiness? Well, doesn’t that depend on what’s causing you to be unhappy, in the first place?
If you’ve just lost a loved one, no amount of money will make you happy, only time and your own attitude will eventually lessen the pain and hopefully bring some joy back into your life.
However, if a stack of unpaid bills is facing you each day, wouldn’t enough money to pay them, not make you happy? If you or someone you love, needs expensive medical care and you can’t afford it, would money not be the happy answer? Read the rest of this entry »
Originally posted 2007-04-26 13:45:26.
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Why Is It Difficult for Women to Reach an Orgasm?
By melia38 | June 30, 2009
According to reports, roughly 70% of women don’t reach an orgasm during intercourse. Although that figure in itself is shocking, it also makes you wonder about how many women never orgasm at all (i.e., intercourse or not)!
A lot of flack fall on men on why women don’t experience an orgasm but truth be told, women have a lot to do about this as well whether they realize it or not.
6 Reasons Why Women DON’T Climax
There are many reasons why women don’t reach sexual climax. Some of them maybe men’s faults but a lot can be because of her too…
Foreplay? What foreplay?
Foreplay is extremely important. For women, making love begins in the mind and if you don’t ‘condition’ her mind for sex, then chances are she won’t be sexually reciprocating in bed too. Furthermore, women really do need more time than men to reach an orgasm; so foreplay is actually your way of extending your own sexual stamina. Read the rest of this entry »
Originally posted 2008-08-26 01:56:52.
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